Alert: Red Flag Warning!

Your brain or heart just issued a red flag warning.  This intuition that we sometimes get during our interactions with others indicates that that this person is trustworthy, a creep, or someone worth giving a second look. Intuition is defined as: 1a. The act or faculty of knowing or sensing without the use of rational processes; immediate cognition or b. Knowledge gained by the use of this faculty; a perceptive insight.   2. A sense of something not evident or deducible; an impression.

How should you act on this information in the dating world?  Drawing from real world examples, such as Trevor in the Dinner for Sex blog entry, I noted the red flags with him: awkward phone conversations, a text insinuating I should pay my share for dinner, and then the misjudgment of sending an inappropriate text, "I would pay for dinner, but then you'd have to sleep with me :)."  His actions proved he was lacking social skills and frankly, did not exhibit behavior that I was willing to put up with. 

Listen to your gut feelings and end any further contact with this person.

Intuition is there for a reason, 
so use it!

The following is a list of examples of red flags:

• not making eye contact
• telling little lies that are not for the benefit of both parties 
• making rude dominating comments/requests
• uses alcohol or drugs excessively
• talks incessantly about their ex-girl/boy friend
• tells you their traumatic life story on the first date
• drives a flashy car or has extravagant clothes, but doesn't have the income or job title to back it up

- Lindsay K.  from the Love Kudos Duo LKx2-
 Edited by Lauren K. 

Subscribe to Love Online Help ... Update Profiles and More by Email
or mailto:lovekudos@gmail.com