Dating the American Way - Go Green

Written by Lindsay K. of Love Kudos

Humans want what we want, when we want it and we want it NOW.  In Charlie in the Chocolate Factory, Veruca Salt wants the goose that lays golden eggs.  When Willie Wonka states they aren't for sale, Veruca screams, "But I want it NOW!" And we all know what happened to her, right? 

We become frustrated and discouraged while we are waiting for love to knock on our digital front door.  Some serial daters will go out with a person once and throw them away like garbage. We are dating for instant gratification.  Perhaps, we need to be more environmentally friendly with our dating lives too. In the following blog, I will discuss ways to go green (in dating terms).

Booty Call Gone Bad - Does Size Matter?

Written by Sam Jones, Guest Blogger

I was recently out having drinks with a bunch of my girl friends, when I decided it was time for a romp with my most recent casual sex interest. 

As Love Kudos recently described in their recommended booty call protocol, booty calls are supposed to be fun and done, in and out, literally.  Most people enjoy sex and even look forward to it.   Men even analogize sex to pizza, even bad pizza is still edible.  So it really surprised me how uninviting this last round of sex was, at least for me. Jack* and I actually had great foreplay, consisting of  passionate kissing and no holding back dry humping.  

How was I to know that this booty call was to end, leaving me unsatisfied and disgruntled ?

Exchanging of Belongings (Post Break-Up)

Written by Lauren K. of Love Kudos

Exchanging of Belongings:

If you live in a swanky high rise in NYC, you are extremely fortunate with the belongings exchange process. Why is that? Because you can use the doorman to do your dirty work and never have to intentionally see your Ex again (if you don't want to). You can even black list them from seeing you in your building. On Sex in the City, Miranda was not only given back her belongings by a doorman, but was actually delivered the "break up" message by him. I think being broken up by a doorman is worse than by a text message or a post-it.

What do you think?

Accidentally On Purpose Keepsakes and Rejects

Written by Lauren K. of Love Kudos

For those of you who might be confused or a bit terrified, I am not referring to getting knocked up as the TV show on CBS "Accidentally On Purpose" implies. I am talking about the items that somehow do not make their way back to their rightful owners post the break-up. This more than often happens with women keeping men's hats, t-shirts, pajama bottoms, or even electronics. However, on occasion men have also been guilty of keeping women's belongings, not because they want them for sentimental reasons, but because they don't want to deal with the belongings' exchange meeting.

Sometimes, these men find having women's shampoo or a hair dryer to be a true benefit with their new dating prospects.

"Heed That Warning" (Dating and Relationships)

Written by Lucian Rivers, a Guest Blogger for Love Kudos
Edited by Lauren K.

Most people have been there. You meet a stunningly attractive person. The conversation is easy as you play off each other, taking turns flashing eyes at one another, you lose track of time, and next thing you know, you are engaged in a possible “love connection.” The lights ahead are green, the anticipation stacks. You stop just shy of declaring your love, but your eyes tell the story.

And then the bottom drops out: for every ounce of readiness to settle down that suddenly courses your veins, he has the same vigor --- only channeled in the opposite direction.

George Carlin's "Modern Man" Are you?

 Written by Lindsay K. of Love Kudos
(on suggestion of Mateo)

In the past 30 years or so, gender roles have changed tremendously.  We now have stay-at-home dads, women that outnumber men in law schools, and some men who feel futile, because they are not the breadwinners and have no desire to take on domestic duties.  A modern woman can be college educated, head of household, and committed to a life without having her own children.   She is underpaid, expected to pay, and devalued. She can be downloaded, upgraded, and outsourced.  

Frustrations in Online Dating ... Ugh!

Written by Lauren K. and Lindsay K. of  Love Kudos

Okcupid.com is a free online dating site which offers a variety of matches based on your ideal qualities and your answers to their questions. If you answer publicly, you can compare your responses to a person you are interested in. 

Recently,  G.T. Jungle* winked at Lindsay K.  He is a 39 year old male.  The website said they were "60% Match 61% Friend 37% Enemy."  She took the initiative to send the first email after he winked at her, but somewhere down the line, she failed to return his email. He wasn't exactly shy about letting her know his frustrations!