From Guest Blogger, Kevin Blanchard
As far as whether you were a witch with a b or just a woman who knows how to escape from a bad date, I would say it's a bit of both, though mainly the later. I don't mean that in a rude way. I would describe it as a woman getting out of a bad date, with a touch of bitchiness. In all honesty, I don't think there is a way to "get out" of a bad date without a man or woman being at least a little bit of a b!$ch or jerk!
In the spirit of full disclosure, I have to admit I have done something similar to your story on more than one occasion. When I was in college, I had a system set up with a friend for times when I was going on a date with a girl I didn't know very well. The plan was that he would call me a couple hours into the date to check on me. This was long enough to make it through the movie, dinner, etc. If the date was going poorly, then I had an "out." Most of my long term relationships have been with girls I already knew, but from time to time, I would meet a girl out and about.
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> A Male's Response to "How to Escape a Bad Date"
Once I got a little older, I didn't feel right lying to my dates anymore. It felt shady to make up an excuse to get out of a bad date. Now the trick is you can't really be 100% "honest" either. No one wants to hear, "I'm having an awful time and it's clear we aren't clicking so I'm going home."
Luckily, I have had only one or two dates in my many years of dating that I would call "bad." Some of the dates I have been on weren't horrendous; there was just no spark or chemistry there. The date itself was enjoyable and I ended up having a fun night out with a new friend.
Most girls want me to plan the first couple of dates. Occasionally, there has been a first date where she asks me out and has already taken the initiative to plan the date. If I'm the one in charge of the date, I'll plan our initial spot, but won't plan beyond the starting time and location. If things are going well, then we can figure out the next spot to go from there. If the date is spiraling downward, then I can call it a night. That seems to be the best mix for me. This way I don't have to lie and make a story up to a girl. Typically, if it's one of the first few dates, neither person is overly invested emotionally, so it's not always a bad thing. Ending a date early because there is not a connection there, can be good for both parties. It allows both people the opportunity to salvage their evening by calling up friends and finishing their night on a better note. So, the moral to the story: there can be a silver lining even for a bad date.
Written by Kevin Blanchard, The Male Perspective
Edited by the Love Kudos Duo Lindsay K. and Lauren K. -LKx2-
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