Time Investment to Find Love

Written by Lindsay K. of Love Kudos LKx2

How much are you willing to invest in love?  People in the U.S. currently spend millions of dollars on their attempt to find love.  Those dollar amounts can't even compare to the amount of time you spend thinking, talking, and/or dreaming of a love connection.


Is it all just a waste of time or can we chalk it up to learning experience?

Love Karma: What Goes Around, Comes Around

So, Sally finally found someone that treated her right ... 
(Part II on the "Lack of Love": Exit Interview)

A personal account from Sally, a guest blogger of the Love Kudos

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I went out with a nice guy a few times named Joe. On our second date, he took me to a great restaurant (you know, the kind reserved for anniversaries). Really, he was a great guy and I kept seeing him because I wanted my feelings of friendship to develop into romance. I just knew the chemistry was lacking. We never even made out, kissed, or even held hands, because I didn't feel a physical connection. Eventually, I just kind of flaked on him to date other guys. Sometimes, I even cancelled on him on the day of. I felt bad and a bit guilty for treating him this way. This guy didn’t deserve this from anyone, especially not from me.

Finally, I sent him a text saying that I was sorry for being so flakey and that he deserved better. Well, he called my bluff and sent a text saying that he thought I just wasn’t interested. I said, well, that too. Why couldn’t I just be upfront? Why not give him an exit interview?

Why don’t we just tell people what they did right, what they did wrong, or that the connection wasn't there? It must have been my own karma that led me to getting blown off by Jake. (Refer to Exit Interview.) From now on, I’m going to let the good guys know that it’s not them and the players or scummy guys know that they are the reason I no longer want to date them. Hopefully, I’ll get the same respect when the situation is reversed.

Edited by Love Kudos and written by a guest blogger.
 

  

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The "Lack of Love" Exit Interview

So, we have talked about the mini-break up before and what Love Kudos recommends. However, we know that is not how most people operate in the dating arena. So, what would you say to someone you briefly dated who asked you for an honest answer why it didn't work out?

Many long term relationships end after much arguing and there’s no debate why the relationship is over. One party may not want it to end, but he or she knows why it just isn't working anymore. Even with the ending of short-term relationships, both parties pretty much know why (one is too busy, no chemistry, value differences, you name it). What about the relationship that has just begun, seems to be progressing, but has an expiration date that only one party is privy to. Poof! It's over without any blatant warning signs. Has this happened to you?

This blog is a collection of thoughts and ideas from Sally, a guest blogger and Lauren K. of  Love Kudos.

An Amazing Date, but No Follow Up

A personal account from Lauren K. of the Love Kudos Duo - LKx2 -

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There are certain circumstances where I would have loved to do an Exit Interview with a particular guy. I am embarrassed to admit this, but when I was a lot younger, and not as wise as I am now, I called a guy after an amazing first date. We met through jdate.com of course. I do want to preface that we did not talk on the phone prior to our meeting and probably only exchanged a couple of emails before setting up the date. (This is not my usual dating protocol.)

It really was a great first date,
filled with multiple make out sessions and some minor undressing. We met at an Italian Bistro in the Dupont area. When I sat down at the pizzeria bar area, I was instantly attracted to him and couldn't stop smiling. After a little while, it became apparent that the attraction was mutual when he mentioned other activities he would like to do later in the night. We went to three different locations, one of which was the top of an unfinished hotel in Washington DC with a perfect view of the Capitol and the Washington monument. It was nearly 2AM when he dropped me off at my car and gave me one last kiss goodbye. The only casualty of the evening was one of my earrings, lost on the streets of Washington DC I presume. There was not any doubt in my mind that he would call. He even mentioned going skiing together in the Rockies in the future. (He had just come back from Vail the day before.)

So, after waiting 4 days for my post date call, I broke down and came up with an excuse to contact him. HERE IS WHAT NOT TO DO. LEARN FROM MY MISTAKES!

Case Study #3 - The Blanton Bad Fish

A Personal Account from Lindsay K. of the Love Kudos Duo

I have always thought that art museums could be a romantic place to meet a potential man.  My dream came true when I attended the first Friday's at the Blanton Museum of Art, in downtown Austin.  While standing in line for a drink, I started to make small talk with this cute guy behind me, Jeremiah.*  He was a little quiet and reserved, but seemed interested in getting to know me.  We walked around the museum, looking at the art, and providing our own commentary on each work.  And he finally asked for my phone number.  

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