Divorce Dating: Do's and Don'ts

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Written by Lindsay K. of Love Kudos
Edited by Lauren K.

There comes a time when you decide you are willing to expand your dating pool to beyond the check box of never been married.  Is it time to broaden your horizon to men or women that are divorced or maybe even widowers?  If you are dating in your thirties and forties, then you probably have come into contact with a divorced individual and/or you are a divorced person yourself.  I am a bit of a cynic about dating a divorcee because of some of my own past personal experiences of dating divorcees on the rebound.  

Four C's in Flirting: Love Kudos Technique Recommendation

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Written by Lindsay and Lauren of Love Kudos

Thank you for everyone who joined the Pre-Valentine's Day Singles Mixer at Uncorked- Wine Bar.  Our live Love Kudos demonstration gave examples of 4 types of people: the d-bag, the slut, the awkward, and the ideal.

Remember the 4 C's next time you see someone who catches your eye.

Compliment:  Start with an honest compliment. For example, if she's wearing a sparkly purple scarf, then tell her it's really nice and it brings out the color in her eyes.

Control: In general, it is never a good idea to be the only one asking questions or talking in a first meeting. It should be a dialogue. We are somewhat traditional and it is ok to let the guy lead in the conversation.

What me mean by control is not to disclose too much or be completely "wild" in your approach. Stay in control with your "crazy" side. It should be a natural flow of question / answer.  Body language is very important. Do leave your body stance open if you are interested. If you want to shutdown the communication, lack of eye contact and folding your arms. If you check your watch or your phone more than once in a five minute interaction, chances are you have turned off the other person.

Credibility: Although we all love to joke around and say outlandish things, it is a little tricky for the first meeting. Example: If someone asks you what you do professionally and you come back with a complete falsehood about what you do for a living, it sends a message that you might not be comfortable with your current job. You want to sound confident. Lead with strength. Telling the truth is sexy. If you are in between jobs, you can say I recently left my position with "X" and am currently looking for work in "X" field. You can immediately turn the conversation on a positive note if you ask the other person a question about their free time, shifting the conversation from "Work" and into "fun" personal time.

Close:  Ask for her number or her email.  There are no coincidences.  Don't leave it up to chance that you might run into him or her again.

Good luck in  your  flirting adventures.

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Pre-Valentine's Day Singles Mixer

Please join us and your fellow singletons

February 8th, 2012

6:30 pm - 8:30 pm

at 

Uncorked- Tasting Room and Wine Bar

900 East 7th Street  Austin, TX 78702-3217

Extended Happy Hour specials.

Love Kudos Demonstration:

How to flirt without being a d-bag or a slut.

Tips on how to be the best flirt.

Role playing to practice your skills.

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Vision Boards: Do They Work or are They Bull S*&t?

Written by Lindsay K. of Love Kudos
To Do Guide by Oprah.com

With a new year, it is time for NY's resolutions, new routines, and the breaking of old unhealthy habits. After a recent TV episode of the show "Happy Endings," I contemplated the idea of creating a vision board.  A vision board is a physical representation of what we would like for our future.  (See the image to the right for example.)  It is for guys and girls, singles and married people, so no one is excluded from the creation of  a vision board. Being single and looking into the future, I like to think there is a significant other out there waiting for me.  I don't think NOT having a future board has impeded my love life,  but would having one help me bring the future into my present? 

10 Ways to Provoke and Exasperate a Single Person

Original article posted on howaboutwe.com by Chiara Atik 

Additional commentary by Lauren and Lindsay of Love Kudos

Many of you singletons are probably still cooped up with your families post-Christmas and Hanukkah and are probably going stir crazy. If it has not happened yet, you will probably encounter at least one relative or non-relative that wants to pry into your life and "fix" your single problem. We are here to help you with some witty comebacks to their burning questions about your personal life.

The good thing about being single is that people are usually pretty willing to talk about your romantic life, because, let's face it, it's probably more entertaining than that of your seriously coupled-up friends.  The bad news? Sometimes, people will want to talk about your love life regardless of whether or not you're in the mood to talk about it. And they will have opinions. And questions. And if you're single for long enough, a lot of these are gonna start sounding the same...