Written by Lauren K. of Love Kudos
Summer Break-Up Season has Commenced ...
It seems to be break up season for some of my closest friends and I have to wonder why. Does summer breed temptation of a different magnitude? In my personal experience, I tend to start dating people in the fall and break up with them right after the winter ends. I need my men during hibernation. I am a summer lovin' type of girl and seem to meet guys in May and break up with them right around the 4th of July. I guess when the fireworks heat up, a different kind of fire is ignited in my relationships.Askmen.com wrote a stream of consciousness that I can relate to, "We can maybe ascribe some sort of symbolic 'new beginnings' thing to spring, but autumn is all about getting secure for winter -- and winter is about making it through to spring. So, if you're thinking about breaking up with your significant other, now's probably the time, ... in the summer."
The summer break up can occur for many reasons and one of them is for practicality. For many college students, it just seems natural to break up or agree to date other people over the summer, rather than subject themselves to painful long-distance relationships. With summer internships, camp counselor jobs, and study abroad experiences, there can be a surge of ways to test your devotion to your exclusive relationship. I was a camp counselor and can distinctly remember how lame I thought one of the female counselors was, because she relegated her entire free time around when she could talk to her boyfriend, another camp counselor halfway across the country. Meanwhile, I also remember thinking very little of a male co-counselor who cheated on his girlfriend who he professed his love for many times over. The combination of alcohol and the beach has a way of increasing your chances of infidelity. This is not a fact, just my opinion.
For selfish reasons, many high school relationships tend to end right after prom, allowing them to play around and be non-committal for the summer before they embark on their college adventures.
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My intended message was, "Today we are friends and tomorrow we might be more when the timing is right."
If you are in a committed relationship in the summer, how can you be free to have your "summer fling"? I am not advocating someone break up if you are in a loving, mutually exclusive relationship simply because we are approaching the summer solstice. I am merely suggesting that you should not rush in to becoming exclusive with anyone you begin dating in the summer, because there is a greater chance of infidelity. In the winter, we tend to prolong mediocre relationships, because we want a date for New Year's Eve or Valentine's Day, but in the summer, we don't have those holiday pressures. Who really needs a date for the 4th of July, right?
Laura Gilbert, a freelance writer from New York says, "Our country's freedom isn't the only thing worth saluting this 4th of July."
Here are some reminders of why being single can be a real blast this summer from Love Kudos and other sources:
You get to go to parties and barbecues without worrying that the person you lugged with you is bored, annoyed, or getting embarrassingly drunk. (And you get to flirt with every hot prospect there!)
You can plan an all-girls or all-bros trip to Vegas or Miami and actually have a base tan before you get there. You don't have to completely edit all of your pictures on Facebook to remove the somewhat flirtatious pictures with other men or women.
You can try all five of Cold Stone Creamery's July-only flavors... twice... before noon... and not have to hide the fact that you ruined your appetite for lunch.
Your friends all instinctively make you their "...and guest" when they go to an event. You get prime invites to concerts (especially popular during the summer), weddings (ditto) and other ticketed events every time someone's significant other has to bail.
If a past flame decides to road trip through your city, you can hang out with them without feeling guilty or needing to justify your actions.
If you're lucky, you can have a real live Grease One "summer fling" on a beach vacation. Where is my Danny? Hopefully, he will not end up in your graduate program, law school, or company in the fall.
* - This blog is not about a particular couple. It is not intended to offend anyone or poke fun at breaking up in any way.
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"Lets be friends with open possibilities." means friends with benefits to a guy. Don't even try to call him after 10 PM because he'll think it's a booty call. Phrases used on me include "We'll see what fate has in store" or "Let's see other people and down the line who knows if we choose to see each other as more than friends." All lame. The truth is men can't go from sleeping with a woman to hanging out with the guy she's sleeping with now without a break in between.
If a guy says "I just don't want a girlfriend right now" it means he doesn't want to commit to you and he either wants variety or thinks he can do better. Don't hang around to be the default girl when he realizes he made a mistake.
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