Tangled Web of Love: Dating Overlap Problem

Written by Lauren K. of Love Kudos

I live in a city of approximately 1 million people according to the Austin Chamber of Commerce. However, it seems like I live in a tangled web of about 5000 people that I constantly see at bars, clubs, restaurants, grocery stores, the gym, and even on the street. It is appealing to be in a place where everyone knows your name, but this concept lacks some charm when your pool of single men is limited to about 200 people. As most of our Love Kudos readers already know, I am a member of both Jdate and Match in the pursuit to find one male to enhance my life. Well, lately I have found that this is becoming an increasing more difficult task due to a "dating overlap" problem.

Dating Overlap Scenario: In Depth Analysis

Written by Lauren K. of Love Kudos

So, we discussed what possibly can happen as a result of the dating overlap problem, but let's take a more in depth look at why this occurs in relatively urban populations.

First off, when you post your profile on a niche dating site like Catholic Singles or Jdate, you are bound to have at least "interest overlap" due to the limited local population with your religious requirements. However, are we supposed to completely eliminate this option to meet people if ultimately we would like to end up with someone from the same religion? I don't think so. Although I have taken holidays from the online dating world, I have found that when I meet people offline they are not always looking for a relationship. Often times, the number one thing we have in common is physical attraction or a specific sport.

Dating the American Way - Go Green

Written by Lindsay K. of Love Kudos

Humans want what we want, when we want it and we want it NOW.  In Charlie in the Chocolate Factory, Veruca Salt wants the goose that lays golden eggs.  When Willie Wonka states they aren't for sale, Veruca screams, "But I want it NOW!" And we all know what happened to her, right? 

We become frustrated and discouraged while we are waiting for love to knock on our digital front door.  Some serial daters will go out with a person once and throw them away like garbage. We are dating for instant gratification.  Perhaps, we need to be more environmentally friendly with our dating lives too. In the following blog, I will discuss ways to go green (in dating terms).