Booty Call Protocol (Can there really be one?)

Written by Lauren K. and Lindsay K.

We've all had our weak moments of calling an Ex, because we needed a release from our raging hormones.  The ex-lover is called in because it's an easy way "or lay" to get our needs met.

Wikipedia defines a booty call as "a telephone call, other communication, or visitation made with the sole intent of arranging a meeting for sexual acts with the person being contacted. It is associated with casual sex between people who have established a casual relationship, 'friends with benefits', or more serious relationship that involves sexual relations."

Happy St. Patti's day!

 Patti Stanger that is!

Written by Lindsay K. of the Love Kudos

According to Patti Stanger, a forty something year old Jewish matchmaker, a lot of successful long-term relationships stem from following a lot of the dating rules. Although she can be described as obnoxious and pushy on her Bravo TV show, "Millionaire Matchmaker," Love Kudos thinks she is the bomb.  LKx2 is not a stickler to following all of the dating rules, but we do feel Stanger has some strong points in her latest book, Become Your Own Matchmaker: 8 Easy Steps for Attracting Your Perfect Mate.

She says it like it is. "Calling makes the man, texting makes the boy, and email makes the phantom."  She also says that our mouths get us in a lot of trouble.  She discusses 12 topics that should be taken off the table when you are first getting to know someone.

F*&K like a man! Introducing Ms. Sam Jones

Introduction to Guest Blogger, Ms. Sam Jones (An Alias from Sex in the City).

These days, I go by Sam for short. I no longer"date", nor do I follow traditional dating protocol. I am not trying to snag a husband. I no longer dream about meeting a knight in shining armor because as we say in SITC, "Honey, he just doesn't exist!" Now I have fun, flirt, sleep with a guy if I want to, then move on to better and BIGGER things. I am speaking for all of you single ladies out there who just want to have a good time and avoid being judged by everyone. Be safe and never stay the night.

Lately I have found that dating is pointless and way too much work. I no longer have to wonder what I did or didn't do on my last date to make sure he'll continue to pursue me. I know it may sound callous and quite contrary to romance, but I actually enjoy the hook up game.  Sometimes I meet a random horny guy out at the bar, take him home, sleep with him, and then kick him out. Done! I think women try to complicate things and try to make a man settle down with just one person. Just go out and f*&K! I have my close girlfriends and male friends for companionship and my vibrator is there for my physical needs when I have a dry spell. Although, honey, that is not too often!

Just like Samantha Jones from Sex in the City, I basically date like a man and my expectations of him are non-existent. This way, I am never disappointed and just make sure my needs are being met. No commitment! No waiting for the next call, text, or date! What could be better?!!

As Sam Jones, I am here to offer you some honest advice on how to date like a man and give you some juicy stories to read at your leisure. 

 Love Kudos may be prude, but Sam Jones is not shy or clandestine with her romantic conquests and disappointments. More to come from Ms. Sam Jones !

* - Sam Jones is a fictitious character, but the stories that she shares are all true. If you have a story for Ms. Jones, write to lovekudos@gmail.com and put SAM JONES in the subject.

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Are you a Hooker or a Hookee? Perhaps, you are both

The "Hooked" concept explored as seen on an episode of the TV show, "How I Met Your Mother"

Written by Guest Blogger Lucian Rivers with Commentary by Lauren K. of Love Kudos

TV Show "How I Met Your Mother"

Lauren K. introduces the "Hooker and Hookee" Concept: 

"Most of us are aware of the 'He or she is just not that into you' idea, but there is a similar construct that many of us seldom talk about in dating, because it happens to people both in and out of relationships. Have you ever devoted a lot of time and energy to a platonic, yet flirtatious relationship that you secretly hoped or believed would develop into a romantic, committed relationship? If yes, you have been on someone's 'Hook' and therefore you are a 'Hookee'. If you have innocently or intentionally led someone to believe that they are the person for you, but just not 'right now', then you have been guilty of luring someone onto your hook and are a 'Hooker'.

Taking "One" for the Team

Written by Lauren K. and Lindsay K. of the Love Kudos

The purpose of having a wing person is to make the first approach to a group of two or more potentials easier.  However, sometimes the attractiveness of the group ranges tremendously and a wingman or wingwoman will have to "take one for the team" when he or she is forced to talk to the person that may not exactly be their type. It's love karma to aid your friend in the "love" or "hook up" game.

Well, what goes around, comes around. If you don't want to be a team player and help out your friend, then he or she may not be apt to help you out. The next time you want to approach that cute "target" on the other side of the bar, that just happens to be standing next to a large, not so attractive individual, you might be out of luck. Our recommendation is to help out your wingwoman or wingman.

The Love Kudos also feel that with sex, one must respect personal limits, but sometimes couples should consider "taking one for the team."

Define the Relationship and then Comes the Facebook Change

By Carin Davis and Lauren K. of Love Kudos

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Lately, I have encountered a new problem with Facebook's Relationship Status: the false "single" indicator label. Do you know what I am referring to? It is during that transition phase when you're exclusive, but are not quite comfortable to announce to your 500+ acquaintances, friends, and family that you are "in a relationship." You don't want to be declared a Facebook "in a relationship" slut, constantly changing your FB relationship status every month or two, yet you don't want to send the wrong signals to your new man or woman. You're not sure if it is more than lust and you want to make sure you are solid before you go public with your relationship. What to do?

Why does someone enter your life?

 For a Reason, a Season or a Lifetime


Written by Lindsay K. of Love Kudos

I know love is a bit of a gambling game, but I often have to question why a certain person comes into my life; if only to leave a few days, weeks, months or years later.  Why did someone pursue me one minute and then drop me like I had the bubonic plague? It doesn't matter if it was a couple weeks or a couple months, why did this person come into my life and then magically disappear?  Did I do or say something that turned them off?  Or are they having their own problems that they need to deal with?

Is Your Man Emotionally Unavailable?

Written by Lauren K. of Love Kudos

As a continuation of our segment on the Walking Wounded, we are now going to give you some pointers on how to deal with the emotionally bruised male. Some of you may disagree with me and I welcome all well thought out, respectful discourse. Bring it on!

I personally feel if you start to notice more than two of the below symptoms listed by Relationship A to Z, I recommend that you RUN.

Setting Up Your Bachelor Pad

Written by Guest Blogger Voltaire with commentary from the Love Kudos

Before going out on a date or even to your local bar, you should always be prepared should things go well at the end of the night. Whether your pad passes the lady’s "test" or not could be the difference between heart-pounding success and mind-numbing failure. Not only should you make sure that your hair is well groomed and that your breath is fresh, but you should be sure to pack some condoms in your pocket and, as we'll discuss in this posting, ensure that your home is well arranged for when your date / one-night-stand / etc. comes back to your place.

The Single Side of Life ... The Upside

Written by Lindsay K. of Love Kudos

I've thought about it, whined about it, and cried about being single.  Now I am choosing to be my own devil's advocate and talk about why being single is actually pretty great and should be enjoyed to the fullest. (I have my independence; ability to chose whenever I want to go to sleep or eat dinner, and have the benefit of dating whoever I want.) The expression, grass is always greener on the other side, possess some truth as indicated by all my co-workers and married friends. They want to live vicariously through me and constantly come to me to hear my latest dating adventures or stories from my downtown outings with friends.  Your single life adventures let's you really appreciate when you finally do meet that person you want to spend your free time with.