Are you a Hooker or a Hookee? Perhaps, you are both

The "Hooked" concept explored as seen on an episode of the TV show, "How I Met Your Mother"

Written by Guest Blogger Lucian Rivers with Commentary by Lauren K. of Love Kudos

TV Show "How I Met Your Mother"

Lauren K. introduces the "Hooker and Hookee" Concept: 

"Most of us are aware of the 'He or she is just not that into you' idea, but there is a similar construct that many of us seldom talk about in dating, because it happens to people both in and out of relationships. Have you ever devoted a lot of time and energy to a platonic, yet flirtatious relationship that you secretly hoped or believed would develop into a romantic, committed relationship? If yes, you have been on someone's 'Hook' and therefore you are a 'Hookee'. If you have innocently or intentionally led someone to believe that they are the person for you, but just not 'right now', then you have been guilty of luring someone onto your hook and are a 'Hooker'.

Taking "One" for the Team

Written by Lauren K. and Lindsay K. of the Love Kudos

The purpose of having a wing person is to make the first approach to a group of two or more potentials easier.  However, sometimes the attractiveness of the group ranges tremendously and a wingman or wingwoman will have to "take one for the team" when he or she is forced to talk to the person that may not exactly be their type. It's love karma to aid your friend in the "love" or "hook up" game.

Well, what goes around, comes around. If you don't want to be a team player and help out your friend, then he or she may not be apt to help you out. The next time you want to approach that cute "target" on the other side of the bar, that just happens to be standing next to a large, not so attractive individual, you might be out of luck. Our recommendation is to help out your wingwoman or wingman.

The Love Kudos also feel that with sex, one must respect personal limits, but sometimes couples should consider "taking one for the team."

Define the Relationship and then Comes the Facebook Change

By Carin Davis and Lauren K. of Love Kudos

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Lately, I have encountered a new problem with Facebook's Relationship Status: the false "single" indicator label. Do you know what I am referring to? It is during that transition phase when you're exclusive, but are not quite comfortable to announce to your 500+ acquaintances, friends, and family that you are "in a relationship." You don't want to be declared a Facebook "in a relationship" slut, constantly changing your FB relationship status every month or two, yet you don't want to send the wrong signals to your new man or woman. You're not sure if it is more than lust and you want to make sure you are solid before you go public with your relationship. What to do?

Why does someone enter your life?

 For a Reason, a Season or a Lifetime


Written by Lindsay K. of Love Kudos

I know love is a bit of a gambling game, but I often have to question why a certain person comes into my life; if only to leave a few days, weeks, months or years later.  Why did someone pursue me one minute and then drop me like I had the bubonic plague? It doesn't matter if it was a couple weeks or a couple months, why did this person come into my life and then magically disappear?  Did I do or say something that turned them off?  Or are they having their own problems that they need to deal with?

Is Your Man Emotionally Unavailable?

Written by Lauren K. of Love Kudos

As a continuation of our segment on the Walking Wounded, we are now going to give you some pointers on how to deal with the emotionally bruised male. Some of you may disagree with me and I welcome all well thought out, respectful discourse. Bring it on!

I personally feel if you start to notice more than two of the below symptoms listed by Relationship A to Z, I recommend that you RUN.

Setting Up Your Bachelor Pad

Written by Guest Blogger Voltaire with commentary from the Love Kudos

Before going out on a date or even to your local bar, you should always be prepared should things go well at the end of the night. Whether your pad passes the lady’s "test" or not could be the difference between heart-pounding success and mind-numbing failure. Not only should you make sure that your hair is well groomed and that your breath is fresh, but you should be sure to pack some condoms in your pocket and, as we'll discuss in this posting, ensure that your home is well arranged for when your date / one-night-stand / etc. comes back to your place.

The Single Side of Life ... The Upside

Written by Lindsay K. of Love Kudos

I've thought about it, whined about it, and cried about being single.  Now I am choosing to be my own devil's advocate and talk about why being single is actually pretty great and should be enjoyed to the fullest. (I have my independence; ability to chose whenever I want to go to sleep or eat dinner, and have the benefit of dating whoever I want.) The expression, grass is always greener on the other side, possess some truth as indicated by all my co-workers and married friends. They want to live vicariously through me and constantly come to me to hear my latest dating adventures or stories from my downtown outings with friends.  Your single life adventures let's you really appreciate when you finally do meet that person you want to spend your free time with.

Burned, Bruised, and Boooo!

Baggage!  If you have dated, fallen in love, then it's probable that you have some type of baggage from past relationships.  Hang ups?  Emotional walls? What are we supposed to do with all this stuff?

Yeah, baggage sucks, but we have to find a way to deal with it. If it's our own luggage or your perspective woman's stuff, the following are some hints into the mind of the Walking Wounded.

'Married & Mortified' asks Love Kudos a Question.

Written by Lauren K. and Lindsay K.

Dear Love Kudos,

I was talking to a girl for a while at an event, just chatting it up when a friend of mine came up and blurted out, "Oh, by the way, he's totally married and has a kid." It was mortifying especially because the conversation was totally innocent, at least from my perspective. That said, I don't wear a wedding ring because I lost my original one and have not replaced it yet.

At what point in a conversation does a married guy, who innocently doesn't wear a wedding ring, have to disclose his marital status? Can't a guy just talk to a girl?!

Can you help me out?

-Married and Mortified